On Not Mothering, Hovering, or Micromanaging

In scrolling through my blog feed this week, I clicked on a post from Leadership Freak that really spoke to something that’s been bouncing around my head for a while. Specifically, the line below stood out, and I think it highlights a particularly important issue in leadership development today.

“When leaders act like mommy, team members act like children.”

Leadership Freak

We have moved away from a leadership model that includes fear and tyranny, and into a time of service leadership and leading by example. Our language has moved from how to make people follow your orders to discussion about how to inspire those around you to action for your cause or your project.

In this transition, there is a line that we must not cross, lest we want children to follow us instead of capable, empowered adults. That line is drawn at what is colloquially known as mothering, but is really just micromanagement, or hovering. Continue reading


On What Drives Us

Please do not copy! This is original work by the author.According to the latest research in motivation science, what drives us is a combination of three types of motivators. In my opinion, the easiest to understand synthesis of resarch in this area is Daniel H. Pink’s Drive: The Surprising Truth about What Motivates Us.

No one has put my feelings on this subject into better words than Pink. He separates motivation into: Motivation 1.0 – basic human needs, Motivation 2.0 – the carrot and the stick, and what he dubs Motivation 3.0 – a desire to direct our own lives. Motivation 3.0 is made up of a combination of:

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